This blog is intended to create a dialogue about learning to receive with grace and ease.

So much has been written about the importance of giving that we forget that in order to give,

someone has to be receiving.

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Time to Remember What I Know Again

Several weeks ago I wrote about how I remembered wonderful jobs I’d received and used the memories to call in a new, fabulous job. I’m happy to report that I’ve completed my formal training period and am enjoying the job as much as ever. Having been so successful with this approach, I’ve decided to use it again – this time to sell our house.

Roger and I have set the intention to move into our own home in 2011. We currently live in the house I bought with my daughters’ father some 12 years ago. After moving everyone in our families, most more than once, since we’ve been together, we’ve decided it’s time for us to have the house of our dreams, one that suits our current lifestyle.

The house we live in has many great features such as big bedrooms, lots of closet space, a lovely waterfall, and a central location. It’s easy to imagine a family moving in and being very happy here, just as we were 12 years ago. So to bolster my confidence that we can find the right and perfect buyer, I am recalling other houses I’ve owned and sold. The first house I owned had to be sold as part of a divorce, and it sold with little effort, for the price I wanted. The next house sold at the perfect time as we were moving from upstate New York to Las Vegas. I remember sitting between my realtor and attorney at the closing (a big affair in New York State), being well cared for despite the demanding buyers.

Our house in Vegas was more challenging to sell. It had no landscaping in the backyard and would flood through the flower boxes when heavy rains hit. After six months on the market and no activity, we decided to fire our realtor and hire another that had been referred to me. She recognized favorable aspects of the house the other realtor had overlooked and ended up selling the house to one of her own buyers on Christmas Eve! The couple wanted the house because of its location and was unconcerned about the flooding since they planned on tearing out the flower boxes anyway. I can remember the excitement of getting that offer, such a wonderful Christmas gift.

So now I spend time each week remembering these events and feeling the happiness and relief of each sale. I know if the house in Vegas can sell at Christmas, our house can sell now. I consider every sold sign I see around town as the Universe encouraging me. The buyer has already been identified. Our new house is already built and being prepared for us to move in. I need to remember what I know, feel the feelings again, and take it one day at a time. I’ll let you know when we sell.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Shift Your Perspective

While I generally love New Thought teachings, I have to admit they get me a bit crazy sometimes. One notion that comes to mind when I think about receiving is that in order to manifest something we need we have to stop wanting it, and then it will come to us. To me, that’s like telling a hungry person to stop wanting food so he can get some! I don’t know how to stop wanting what I need, such as enough money to pay my bills.

Now I’ve heard this suggestion more than once, and I usually dismiss it. Recently though I read a wonderful article about perspective by Joanna Blum that enabled me to appreciate this advice. She uses the analogy of a camera and the way the photographer looks through the viewfinder and centers on one particular object. In doing so, the other things in the frame do not disappear; they just become blurry, while the object of interest remains clear. Suddenly, I had a different interpretation of “not wanting.” I didn’t have to stop wanting what I needed. I could allow it to stay in the frame and shift my focus to be on what I do have. I did not have to pretend that I didn’t need the money to support myself. My needs did not have to go away; I could still acknowledge their blurry presence, but keep myself centered in gratitude for the money I do have.

This changed perspective has created a new practice for me. When I find myself thinking about a need or desire I have, I gently acknowledge it. Then I imagine seeing it in a viewfinder and shifting my aim off of it and onto something wonderful that I have. I feel grateful for that and trust that all else is being provided for me.